Yeah, that's her.I watch the first hour of the Today show almost religiously, although my eyes and ears are tired at the time and I'm only paying attention in the most elemental ways (ie- my eyes are open and there is noise in the background). So, I heard this story yesterday and have my own prudish take on this former Duke U. student's "thesis." You can read the thing for yourself here.
Not a nice gal, not someone you take home to mom. Ever. There's an amusing comment someone posted after the text of the thesis that the guy who jumped off the GW Bridge was her father.
I can just imagine folks from other countries seeing this story and/or reading this "thesis" and looking for their guns and bombs. This is as good a reason as any to hate America.
Duke's not a cheap school to attend, and it has an excellent academic standing. But, like any college, I guess sowing one's wild oats is weaved into campus life. That's unsurprising. I have no way to relate to this sort of behavior. The college bar hookup was not part of my life, I've simply got no experience with it. Some of my friends did it, most did not. Typically, the people at school who made hooking up a regular practice became well known for their promiscuity and were avoided.
I guess Duke's athletes didn't care. Ewww.
There's some kind of feminist argument they're spewing over this, saying it's empowering to women who embrace their sexuality and "my, look how far we've come." I can acknowledge that our "cultural" embrace of this sort of behavior is preferable to arranged marriages and stoning people to death....but still......
Here's my take: you're given your gender roles at conception. And using them is great, one of the best things about being alive. But, with all of that comes the responsibility to recognize that: 1) you can hurt other people with them; and 2) you can hurt yourself as well. Both are important. Hypothetically speaking, sure - she might have been OK with the casualness of these sexual encounters...but the "Johns" might not (yes people, jocks have feelings too). And, while everyone can understand that a gal short-sightedly jumping into bed with every guy she takes a shine to is not necessarily a good thing....I think it should be noted that the behavior damages more than just her reputation. How will she learn to commit to a marriage (if she ever chooses to)? Or children? Or anything?
The answer, I guess, is that all of that comes with maturity. But inter-personal relationships are much more thorny and bad experiences can damage people for the rest of their lives. Some wounds you never really heal from. I think this gal's going to have some big scars. Maybe those fellas will, too.
Again, returning briefly to the terrorists, the idea that college is a playground for the upper-class who are groomed to be the next generation of American leaders is kinda awful. A 4-year extension of childhood whilst kids drink and screw to their fill. Once that ride's over, they're supposed to get a job, grow up....etc etc. Our educational system has failed them all if it accepts a "thesis" like this as a scholarly endeavor. IT'S NOT ENOUGH TO SIMPLY TELL KIDS TO "BE CAREFUL" AND "USE PROTECTION." There's a very human element to sexual behavior that transcends mere technicalities, it can be emotional and spiritual....and therein lies the problem. Good luck.
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FOOTBALL, briefly, as I'm sweating from all that preaching. I'm 23-23 for the season and want to get over that .500 mark.....
Jax at Buffalo: you think the Bills can win a home game? I do. BILLS
Tampa at Cincinnati: BENGALS, but a close game.
Atlanta at Cleveland: Cleveland has "shown life" as they say. But Atlanta is a good team this year. FALCONS
St Louis at Detroit: DETROIT. Team of destiny
KC at Indy: COLTS
Green Bay at Washington: Boy, I could see a Redskins win this week.....but probably not. PACKERS
Chicago at Carolina: BEARS
Denver at Baltimore: RAVENS
NY Giants at Houston: TEXANS
New Orleans at Arizona: SAINTS
San Diego at Oakland: CHARGERS
Tennessee at Dallas: hmm......not feeling a road team here. COWBOYS
Philly at San Fran: another desperate team....49ERS to upset
Minnesota at NY Jets: JETS, but I hate myself for the pick
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